Exclusivity (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2015-01-29 07:11:24 by myloverhasfur Canidae
Hi all,
This is my first post on reddit; I'm glad to see a community like this of mutual understanding.
I am, with respect to physical/sexual attraction, exclusive--or nearly so--to dogs. However, I can also have strong emotional bonds with certain women (I'm male).
Is this common? It makes it difficult to sort out my feelings for my close female friends, since on the one hand I think I might want to spend the rest of my life with them, I don't know how to explain my lack of physical attraction to them or whether that will get in the way of our friendship.
Any thoughts?
neat, you sound pretty much like me. I figured i was exclusive to dogs but every now and again a girl came along that had me questioning myself. It's only recently that I came to the conclusion that this must be how normal people see animals. They can be beautiful and you can love them, but that doesnt automatically mean you'll be sexually attracted to them. Thats how I feel about girls.
I cant help much on what you should do though. I dont really worry about it as its pretty rare i speak to a girl my age who doesnt make me want to blow my brains out after a few minutes of chatting to them (yes yes, lewronggeneration and all that). I will say that theres plenty of fish in the sea so you can keep your current group of friends and find someone else to settle down with. I'm of the belief that theres someone for everyone, but you just gotta find em :P
Never though about it that way before, but it seems to make a good deal of sense.
thanks! I'm sure someone else must've thought of it before me, but when in clicked in my mind it really resonated with me. I feel like I finally understood how normal people feel to both humans and animals as well as clearing up some of my own confusion. I keep meaning to make a post about it but I'm never sure how to word it to generate some meaningful discussion so it sits in the back of my mind waiting to be broken out in cases like this :P
Well, I had sworn off human relationships completely before I found my wife of two decades. To be honest, yes, it will cause difficulties if you cannot please in the bedroom for a long term relationship. As much as a woman might like to believe they are not sexually motivated, they most assuredly are. The way their brains and body are I would argue that they need more and a better quality of stimulation than me who can just drop a load and move on.
Yes, it is common to have strong bonds to people of either sex when you are a zoo or zoo exclusive and not completely anti-people. If all you want with this woman is a friendship, then don't worry about the sex. If you want a relationship then a lot of communication is going to have to happen.
It is possible that you might find the one human that is sexually attractive to you, but it won't be physical. The brain is the largest sex organ after all. What this means is that a relationship could be possible even if you really are only zoosexual and exclusive attracted to dogs. It wouldn't change that side of you but would be more of an expansion of your feelings.
I'm not going to give the (wrong) advice. But yeah people on this site or other forums have been in this situation, more so then one would think.
In my life I've been in relationships with one dog, a couple of women and a couple of men.
All I can say for certain is that when I was feeling fulfilled in any of these relationships, I couldn't imagine being attracted to anyone or anything else, and times in-between I was rather confused to what I really wanted.
I don't know if it's the same for everyone, but for me personally sexuality has seemed to be a fluid thing, hard to define and pin down but as soon as I have strong feelings a sexual attraction seems to follow naturally.
So maybe you just need to get close to the right person. Just don't ever settle for someone who doesn't make you feel fulfilled and excited to share your day with them, because when you find the right person and they know you inside and out, it makes everything much easier to figure out.
It seems very common. My main sexual attraction is to canines, but I've had romantic relationships with guys before. I only feel an attraction to a very small number of people, so I don't think I'll be with a human again unless I find an asexual person that I like.
Glad I read all the comments. Here's another vote in the "me too" column. I can form emotional bonds with humans, even get my rocks off with them (emotional and intellectual arousal), but I only - I can only - find dogs and horses physically sexually arousing.