Boy, I'd like to first say that whatever you guys do with yourself amongst yourselves as friends, please continue to enjoy. This ain't about consenting adults or even uncomfortable PDAs. Nor is this topic about animals, although to me their safety is paramount. This is not about the ethics of what you do, but is about how some of us are perceived.

With that out of the way I can't help but notice, what with the refugees from BF and other DDoSed sites, that I am getting an inordinate number of really really inappropriate messages. While these may be appropriate for places dedicated to hook-ups and we all know the "normals" are just as bad on their dating sites. At what point should we stand up and say no, it is not appropriate to talk about "making your mare gush", "tips and tricks", or "have you...?" in the very first message you send someone?

Yes, I'm a sexual guy, yes, you can tell my sexuality from where I hang out, but that gives you no calling to contact me to add me to your stable of get off material.

I mean, I hope you are a fine person like most of the zoos I know, but give me a chance to find out you are rather than shattering all hope of an intelligent discussion if I'm simply not "down" with you.