Tundrovyy-VolkCanidae 9 points on 2015-04-30 11:04:26
For the lazy:
No matter how much you trust them, how much you love them, how much they mean to you: Be careful.
4 years ago I thought it was a good idea to come out to my girlfriend. Half-a-year ago we broke up very badly. Now she tries invading and ruining my life by telling my family about my zoophilia.
For now I could deny and deconstruct her claims. But it is uncertain what else she tries to bring up. It is uncertain how much "evidence" she has.
If you can't be 100% certain that a person would bury corpses with you (metaphorical speaking), don't try coming out to them. The possible backfire is not worth taking.
If you already met based on the theme of zoophilia, make sure they really are zoophile before you want to share any personal information. You can never be sure who tries to screw you over.
actuallynotazoophileok, I lied 7 points on 2015-04-30 14:51:37
man I'd deny the shit out of it. especially if he already had a girlfriend, remember the stereotype is that we like animals because we cant get a girlfriend. surely it wouldnt be to hard to just frame her as the crazy ex.
bonniebubblegum 2 points on 2015-06-12 01:40:39
i dont even WANT a human partner. i find humans disgusting to say the least
[deleted] 1 point on 2015-06-18 20:01:25
Same.
TheEthicalZoo 1 point on 2015-05-02 01:28:34
Luckily for me, I am dating another zoo, so I have that metaphorical corpse burying person in my life already.
Not that I really need such a person. Everyone who knows me, knows I'm zoo. The worst that has happened so far is someone trying to publicly embarrass me at a BDSM munch and I was caught off guard and not expecting it, so it worked quite well unfortunately. However, being caught off guard is the only reason why that was so terrible - no one criticized me or anything like that. I have no shame in the fact that I am zoo, publicly or privately.
I've honestly had much worse reactions from people on the internet than I have got in person. Then again science says that humans only have the capacity to really care about maybe 100-300 people, so of course strangers on the internet are going to be cruel and the people who've known me for years and know I would never hurt an animal still treat me the same as before they knew.
Yearningmice 7 points on 2015-04-30 11:42:15
Hmm, a forum I'm not part of... :)
To be honest, it doesn't matter how much you trust anyone, this can be used against you if they know and choose to. Case in point the vet from Britain.
It is almost always the jilted girlfriend/boyfriend. Might I suggest that folks who do tell their SO also deal with problems as the arise and decide to move on before it gets to the point they hate your guts? Many people do not have this drama in their lives although they also suffer breakups and so forth.
TheEthicalZoo 1 point on 2015-05-02 01:35:23
I've been through many human/human relationships (many of them abusive, so I know the red flags like the back of my hand). That is one of the first big lessons I learned from my relationships, If the water gets too choppy: abandon ship. No relationship is worth so much anger and stress that the OP's situation should happen - ever. OP's ex sounds abusive to me. Outing without permission, not respecting boundaries, etc.
zootrashcandoggy doodle dandy 3 points on 2015-05-02 06:45:16
To be fair though, not all red flags are obvious, even in hindsight. Sometimes an abuser won't show their true colors until the even that ends the relationship.
TheEthicalZoo 2 points on 2015-05-03 01:53:04
I wouldn't know anything about that. I don't think I've ever dated anyone who was completely nice to me until a breakup happened.
When I look back on the abusive relationships I've been in, there has always been red flags before the relationship ended. And now, I interview my dates thoroughly before I even end up in a relationship with them and if they lie to me, I am very good at telling when people are lying in person.
If they somehow happen to get past those defenses, I leave at the drop of a hat upon the first red flag and I have not had to do that yet because my initial defenses have been good enough so far for the past 6 years or so.
Rannoch2002Deer Zoo 2 points on 2015-05-06 09:18:56
I'm going to say something that could sound mean, but it's completely true and not intended that way, so here goes:
This is why I am zoo exclusive.
I'm sorry you had to go through that regardless, T-V.
Tundrovyy-VolkCanidae 2 points on 2015-05-06 09:31:52
Oh no, it wasn't me. I was just crossposting someone else's story, thank god.
Sorry for the confusion.
Rannoch2002Deer Zoo 1 point on 2015-05-06 09:48:07
Oh good,
wait, now I feel kinda like a butt for being like "it's ok it wasn't someone I know!"
It still sucks, but... is it bad that I feel less bad because I don't know this person? Mixed feelings lol.
/r/zoophilia archive
For the lazy:
man I'd deny the shit out of it. especially if he already had a girlfriend, remember the stereotype is that we like animals because we cant get a girlfriend. surely it wouldnt be to hard to just frame her as the crazy ex.
i dont even WANT a human partner. i find humans disgusting to say the least
Same.
Luckily for me, I am dating another zoo, so I have that metaphorical corpse burying person in my life already.
Not that I really need such a person. Everyone who knows me, knows I'm zoo. The worst that has happened so far is someone trying to publicly embarrass me at a BDSM munch and I was caught off guard and not expecting it, so it worked quite well unfortunately. However, being caught off guard is the only reason why that was so terrible - no one criticized me or anything like that. I have no shame in the fact that I am zoo, publicly or privately.
I've honestly had much worse reactions from people on the internet than I have got in person. Then again science says that humans only have the capacity to really care about maybe 100-300 people, so of course strangers on the internet are going to be cruel and the people who've known me for years and know I would never hurt an animal still treat me the same as before they knew.
Hmm, a forum I'm not part of... :)
To be honest, it doesn't matter how much you trust anyone, this can be used against you if they know and choose to. Case in point the vet from Britain.
It is almost always the jilted girlfriend/boyfriend. Might I suggest that folks who do tell their SO also deal with problems as the arise and decide to move on before it gets to the point they hate your guts? Many people do not have this drama in their lives although they also suffer breakups and so forth.
I've been through many human/human relationships (many of them abusive, so I know the red flags like the back of my hand). That is one of the first big lessons I learned from my relationships, If the water gets too choppy: abandon ship. No relationship is worth so much anger and stress that the OP's situation should happen - ever. OP's ex sounds abusive to me. Outing without permission, not respecting boundaries, etc.
To be fair though, not all red flags are obvious, even in hindsight. Sometimes an abuser won't show their true colors until the even that ends the relationship.
I wouldn't know anything about that. I don't think I've ever dated anyone who was completely nice to me until a breakup happened.
When I look back on the abusive relationships I've been in, there has always been red flags before the relationship ended. And now, I interview my dates thoroughly before I even end up in a relationship with them and if they lie to me, I am very good at telling when people are lying in person.
If they somehow happen to get past those defenses, I leave at the drop of a hat upon the first red flag and I have not had to do that yet because my initial defenses have been good enough so far for the past 6 years or so.
I'm going to say something that could sound mean, but it's completely true and not intended that way, so here goes:
This is why I am zoo exclusive.
I'm sorry you had to go through that regardless, T-V.
Oh no, it wasn't me. I was just crossposting someone else's story, thank god.
Sorry for the confusion.
Oh good,
wait, now I feel kinda like a butt for being like "it's ok it wasn't someone I know!"
It still sucks, but... is it bad that I feel less bad because I don't know this person? Mixed feelings lol.
i am too. dont be ashamed!