The incident that happened this morning(self.zoophilia)
submitted 2015-10-20 14:43:57 by [deleted]
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HeartBeatOfTheBeastHoof and Claw 3 points on 2015-10-20 16:11:58
I would say you have a good mom if she knows about your zoophilia and is fine with it.
ursusem 1 point on 2015-10-20 16:31:07
I was always openly vocal about my zoo feelings since very early in my life. If you knew me as a child, then you knew about my zoo nature. My mother even said to me one time that "yes, you were always that way."
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ursusem 1 point on 2015-10-22 06:48:30
I always told people that I wanted to "marry a bear."
actuallynotazoophileok, I lied 1 point on 2015-10-20 18:38:32
I dont understand what topic youre bringing up.
Yes, I prefer eating off clean plates. Is that it?
KynophileDog lover 1 point on 2015-10-20 20:01:54
Her flippancy about a bear being killed and eaten is kind of expected. Most people view them as nothing more than wild animals, and have no problem with it since they don't really know enough to protest. It's not a big deal to her, as with most people. Best to ignore it unless she keeps bringing up bears in a negative way, in which case calmly explain how that makes you feel.
furvert_tailEquine, large canid 1 point on 2015-10-20 23:38:14
Is the problem is that you keep failing to effectively communicate what you find icky about cleanliness, or that she's willing to openly talk about eating an animal that you were intimate with?
As /u/Kynophile has already mentioned the meat, I'll answer the communication problem. It sounds like a communication problem I had with my dad when I was a teenager, where I found the sound of the constant dripping of the kitchen tap very annoying, but every effort I made to stop it just had him say "if you don't like it, try closing your eyes" (as if that stopped the sound). Never did get him to understand — the tap was still dripping years later, after I moved out, even after he died.
shadowwoofCanis, Vulpes, Felis 0 points on 2015-10-21 11:23:05
It seems to me like this is one of those weird comments that are prejudiced, but not blatantly so, making it difficult to challenge. I'm not going to get into a battle of semantics, but it seems to me that you've stumbled across a microaggression; the driving assumption in this case is that zoophiles shouldn't be concerned with intimacy inside their own species, since they are already around 'dirty' animals. If this comes up often, I would consider talking to her about it.
While this may not be the most grave issue in the community, it's important to discuss issues that can affect someone's quality of life. I thank you for bringing it up.
ursusem 1 point on 2015-10-22 06:44:31
Yes, I feel like you understand the driving assumption here that I'm getting at. That "anyone who would be like that with animals wouldn't care about any other kind of unclean activity." The thing of what she said kind of made me feel bad because she made it seem like doing that kind of stuff with animals and wanting to be like that with animals is inherently deadly- like animals are so disease ridden they are a death sentence or something. She also said to herself under her breath that "it's like doing a one nighter with someone you just met at a bar" so I don't know. Sometimes I wonder if maybe she's right and being with animals is too risky of an activity that way. Animals like to walk around bare foot out in Nature, roll around in dead things and eat raw meat.
shadowwoofCanis, Vulpes, Felis 1 point on 2015-10-22 10:27:50
Zoophiles deserve to feel comfortable just like anyone else. People have no right to push you out of your comfort zone because you belong to an identity group. Moreover, there's a difference between listening to others' opinions and reaching a better understanding and someone hinting that you are making choices they disapprove of and them working against your interests.
maybe she's right and being with animals is too risky of an activity that way. Animals like to walk around bare foot out in Nature, roll around in dead things and eat raw meat.
Perhaps. Talk about the merits of that idea though. The fact of the matter is you deserve to enjoy your meal how you want it with no underhanded comments about zoophilia.
/r/zoophilia archive
I would say you have a good mom if she knows about your zoophilia and is fine with it.
I was always openly vocal about my zoo feelings since very early in my life. If you knew me as a child, then you knew about my zoo nature. My mother even said to me one time that "yes, you were always that way."
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I always told people that I wanted to "marry a bear."
I dont understand what topic youre bringing up.
Yes, I prefer eating off clean plates. Is that it?
Her flippancy about a bear being killed and eaten is kind of expected. Most people view them as nothing more than wild animals, and have no problem with it since they don't really know enough to protest. It's not a big deal to her, as with most people. Best to ignore it unless she keeps bringing up bears in a negative way, in which case calmly explain how that makes you feel.
Is the problem is that you keep failing to effectively communicate what you find icky about cleanliness, or that she's willing to openly talk about eating an animal that you were intimate with?
As /u/Kynophile has already mentioned the meat, I'll answer the communication problem. It sounds like a communication problem I had with my dad when I was a teenager, where I found the sound of the constant dripping of the kitchen tap very annoying, but every effort I made to stop it just had him say "if you don't like it, try closing your eyes" (as if that stopped the sound). Never did get him to understand — the tap was still dripping years later, after I moved out, even after he died.
It seems to me like this is one of those weird comments that are prejudiced, but not blatantly so, making it difficult to challenge. I'm not going to get into a battle of semantics, but it seems to me that you've stumbled across a microaggression; the driving assumption in this case is that zoophiles shouldn't be concerned with intimacy inside their own species, since they are already around 'dirty' animals. If this comes up often, I would consider talking to her about it. While this may not be the most grave issue in the community, it's important to discuss issues that can affect someone's quality of life. I thank you for bringing it up.
Yes, I feel like you understand the driving assumption here that I'm getting at. That "anyone who would be like that with animals wouldn't care about any other kind of unclean activity." The thing of what she said kind of made me feel bad because she made it seem like doing that kind of stuff with animals and wanting to be like that with animals is inherently deadly- like animals are so disease ridden they are a death sentence or something. She also said to herself under her breath that "it's like doing a one nighter with someone you just met at a bar" so I don't know. Sometimes I wonder if maybe she's right and being with animals is too risky of an activity that way. Animals like to walk around bare foot out in Nature, roll around in dead things and eat raw meat.
Zoophiles deserve to feel comfortable just like anyone else. People have no right to push you out of your comfort zone because you belong to an identity group. Moreover, there's a difference between listening to others' opinions and reaching a better understanding and someone hinting that you are making choices they disapprove of and them working against your interests.
Perhaps. Talk about the merits of that idea though. The fact of the matter is you deserve to enjoy your meal how you want it with no underhanded comments about zoophilia.