Do any of you have anyone IRL to talk to about this outside of Reddit? (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2016-01-27 13:11:36 by melonhandsoap
Just curious if it's just me but I'm crazy for companionship and acceptance right now.
/r/zoophilia archive /r/zoophilia archiveJust curious if it's just me but I'm crazy for companionship and acceptance right now.
I'd assume most people don't. Besides my fiancee, I think the only time I've ever brought it up to someone was when I was chilling at a friend's house and I said his dog had a nice ass.
Have you considered joining a zoo chatroom? Knotty.me is pretty great too.
Weird. Maybe it's just me lol. I've joined some chat rooms but then they're mostly more on there to trawl for porn than actually talk about it.
Seems here and beastforums are best for real talk? I'll check it out.
some people seem to have a pretty poor opinion of it, and i don't understand why, because for the most part it seems like a pretty accepting place, but zoophilesforum dot com has a chat room that isn't anywhere near as populated as beastforum is (i assume.. i only ever went there once and never tried the chat room). plenty of stuff gets discussed there, sexual and not. it's definitely a good place to go to feel less lonely, IMO. i've met several people from there IRL, and i even have a roommate now who i met from there.
edit: reading others' comments, i just want to add that it was over a year before i met anyone from ZF, with lots of talking ahead of time to try to determine i wasn't going to meet a crazy person .. and we also chose a nice, populated neutral location to meet up so neither of us knew where the other lived and didn't have to worry about getting stabbed or abducted or anything, heh.
I know what you mean lol. I just seem to keep running into people who are pretending to be girls into zoo but really they're just guys play-acting their fantasies so it's tough to find someone to have real conversations with.
I feel like there are so many misconceptions that it's hard to open up to people.
actually, i meant people seem to have a poor opinion of zoophilesforum dot com. i wasn't talking about zoophilia in general (though yes, that's also true). i hope you give the site a shot if you haven't already.
How come? I've never heard anything bad about it and it's my favorite zoo forum. The one I usually hear bad things about is beastforum and I wish they'd let me delete my account there.
i forget the exact complaints. it came up in discussion in a thread here some time in the last year, if i remember correctly.
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From the Battlecrops zoo survey: http://i.imgur.com/P2XCzKJ.png
It seems like most people are out to at least someone. Though that doesn't say how many of those people they can talk to about it.
And it doesn't say how many people they know IRL. If it was a question about friends outside of the internet, the numbers would definitely be a lot lower.
Well to be fair, when I did my interviews, I found a large percentage of people who were out to someone IRL. That said, my interviews were not a representative sampling, but I still think the trend may be stronger than people think.
Got an ex-boyfriend with experience and an ex-girlfriend with an interest. But I don't usually talk to either about it. I never really felt I needed RL people for that.
I met the boyfriend in an online zoo place and we became friends IRL a few years later in another context so we already knew.
At the time with the girlfriend one of us told the other first but I forgot the order.
My current girlfriend doesn't know because she has a tendency to overreact and if we ever break up she might tell someone.
I used to have a girlfriend I would try to ease into it. She loved dogs but not to the point where she wanted to get intimate with one. But we'd roleplay sometimes, and she was willing to try a dildo from bad dragon, but still thinking about actually doing it with a dog was something she found disgusting when I'd bring it up.
It's not so much how to tell her as not trusting her to keep it secret.
Our professional circles overlap too much so that could quickly turn ugly.
Outside of work I don't really care much if it got out, if I lost friends from it I can live without those friends anyway, but I don't go around telling people.
I certainly don't... It doesn't feel safe to talk about it with anyone in real life.
I mean, if two people are zoophiles, how should they know? They're likely both hiding it. And then to talk with someone online and meet irl is risky, too. What if they lured you in to hurt you?
A couple of my old friends know, but only one whom I currently communicate with does. The subject doesn't ever arise. It makes both of us uncomfortable when it's hinted at.
Same. My brother knows because he found an old stash of porn I had before but he doesn't judge (I think). But when he ribs me about it it's a bit embarrassing because I know he finds it weird regardless.
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Outside of reddit yea, IRL I have never told anyone just really never thought the reward would be the risk but hey ya never know I may tell somebody someday but I haven't yet and don't plain on it anytime time soon.
I do, yeah. Mostly my best friend and potential roommate, who likes to troll me about it. Kinda fun, really.
My best friend/roommate knows and he's kinds into too. We both talk about it and make jokes just between us.
Nobody IRL. I don't want to mention it, especially where I live it's already a no-go when someone is gay.
But good thing there are a few understanding and like-minded people on the internet, I only talk about my zoo side here, and Zoophilesforum, also theres a german ask-page, where I answer the few rare questions people ask about zoophilia/bestiality, and I try to explain the topic objectively.
And on that page happened one thing I am proud of: There was a person, who had the opinion that zoophiles are abusing animals. But I explained, that this has nothing to do with it, and wrong informations are spreaded. I told him a bit about my life, and said zoophiles really love animals. And after a while he was understanding. :) It's also the only non-zoo I had a conversation with, cause most people are so intolerant, I don't even want to try to convince them, because they won't listen anyway.
When you mean IRL, do you mean in person?
If that's the case, nope. My friend accidentally found a zoo porn video on my USB stick once (He's a close friend and so I wasn't secretive around him. So it was my fault.). The disgust I saw on his face was so much that I was taken aback. I lied that I got all that from another guy and put the blame on him. They didn't know each other, so there's no problem. I'm saying this before someone calls me out on this.
I only have a couple of friends I talk to on Kik and a few other friends in Second Life. Apart from that, no one.
Same thing happened to me lol. I said I was just downloading random stuff and haven't seen it yet and was surprised it was in there.
Thank goodness you didn't have to deal with my friend. We're both techies and so if I'd used that, he'd have roasted me.
I've never met anyone in real life who is okay with discussing "weird" stuff. Sure philosophical discussions about life and existence is alright but to discuss something as human as attraction to a specific thing is "taboo". Well, one day, it'll be fine, one day.
I'm kinda able to talk about it with a close female friend of mine. I've known her for years and know that she's pretty open about...well everything and very supportive when it comes to her friends.
Sadly, I've noticed that the topic seems to make her uncomfortable, so I try to avoid talking about it too much. I doubt that she would tell somebody else about my odd attractions but I know that she doesn't like to talk about it either.
I have come out of the closet with this with a lot of people. Both online as well IRL. I have two great close friends who both know the full story and once in a while it does come up in conversations. We mention it, joke about it, talk serious about it. They both have also owned up some stuff about themselves in return. We help each other out when we can, we're a good group together.
That sounds awesome. I live in a pretty conservative town so people will have strong opinions about it here.
Yes, my boyfriend. He is partly zoo as well (although non-practicing for practical reasons).
I've come out for some other people (my mother, for instance), but I don't want to discuss it in detail with them. With them, it was more like "help me, I'm suicidal because I'm a zoophile and people think zoophiles should die" rather than really discussing why I find dogs so beautiful.
My boyfriend on the other hand, I feel comfortable discussing sexual fantasies etc with.
A few zoo friends I know in real life, plus my girlfriend — she isn't a zoo, but made an account to comment here and learn more about what it's like to be me.
Edit: I misread the question initially, I've also told a couple of other people who are not zoos or who only turned out to be after I came out to them. Everyone I've dated has known, with one possible exception for whom my sexuality was just a strong implication.
Never talked to people IRL about, although I once did admit to a friend of mine (while we were both very drunk) that I fantasized about animals. I plan to tell my very close and very open-minded female friend, but I don't know if it's a good idea.
I wish I had zoo friends IRL but I'm so bad with people online that it'll probably never happen.
Yes, I would say about 5 or so, though I met them all online and talked there for a good while first.
Perhaps. I'm sure the line will be more blurred once we discover alien species or some such lol. Homosexuality was treated with the same attitude before, and so we're interracial relationships.
So hopefully one day. :)
For me, the only people I've met in person are now hundreds of miles away. I would like to find others nearby, not because I'm public at all, just because it's nice to know there are people who understand. But it is a lot of risk, so, buckle in for a one-way train ride to lonelytown!
Nope, and I'm doubtful I ever will.
HAHAHAHAHA nope.
I'm pretty open about it on the internet and currently have a boyfriend whom I've met online who's also into animals. I'm looking forward to meet him eventually :3
Other than that, I don't talk about it with people I know irl in general. I get very uncomfortable talking about anything regarding more embarrassing topics :P
No, but I wish I did. someone to bounce ideas off and shoot the shit with every so often would be pretty amazing. Unfortunately theres no surefire way of vetting someone off the internet before you meet them and I dont think I will ever just bring this up with someone I already know either. I think I'd rather only other zoos know I'm a zoo anyway, it would be easier for us to talk to each other as we already know the angle the other person is coming from. normal people can only imagine/guess.
It sucks, but its just one of those things you have to deal with IMO. Maybe in the future but at the moment I've got too much to lose.
some of my friends know, but only one person i know is open to talking about it openly. the rest are OK with it but really dont like talking about it