Want to tell my wife but I'm terrified of what she'll think. (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2016-05-01 00:50:19 by formerzoothrowaway

Hi all, don't know where else I can go for advice.... I'm not a true zoophile, but I did experiment with dogs in my teen years and I still find zoo porn very hot, but don't actively go looking for it very often. I think this stands as my deepest darkest secret.

I am into some unconventional kinks that my wife knows about. And while she may not feel the same way about said kinks, I think she tolerates my enjoyment of them, even if she doesn't want to participate. I feel bad keeping a secret from her but I don't see how any good can come of telling her.... A part of me wants to tell her about my past experiences but I don't know how she will react. Can anyone relate? Maybe there's a way to lessen the possible shock of this info?

Thanks

Edog91 6 points on 2016-05-01 02:05:41

I am not giving any advice but I can only say what I would do. I personally would not tell her because its not relevant. It's not like u are planing or wanting to engage in the sexual act any more so I see no reason to bring it up. I also will say u know your wife better better then me, she may be very accepting, maybe into it herself. Would tell only if i thought it would bring us closer.

incognito-cognition 1 point on 2016-05-01 18:18:10

Right. If it were a current interest, well, okay, but why should your teenaged experiences matter once you're already well into an established, adult relationship?

the_egoldstein 1 point on 2016-05-02 18:51:46

I have to agree here, what benefit would be gained in her knowing? I do not see either of your lives being enriched by the revelation and since it's not a part of your life now, it is irrelevant.

It sounds like it was part of your youth, leave it there. She likely has her own secrets which are also irrelevant for the same reasons, leave those in the past as well.

timothy_tyler -5 points on 2016-05-01 03:19:32

If you're into dogs, you should definitely go down to the pound and pick up the sweetest bitch you can find.

Make sure you time this perfectly: Just as your wife returns from work, you should be going down on your new bitch.

At this point, you need only glance at her, lustfully, and she will see the understanding in your eyes: The man I married is only actually into fucking dogs.

She'll breathlessly grab her blouse, then head to the pound herself to find a real man to satisfy her.

furvert_tail Equine, large canid 3 points on 2016-05-01 23:16:08

This is the worst advice I could imagine.

Edit: second worse, my imagination caught up.

timothy_tyler -1 points on 2016-05-02 10:43:33

lol

And my post is downvoted because some people don't seem to get sarcasm.

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wright-one ursidae canidae pantherinae 4 points on 2016-05-01 04:02:18

see the movie "sleeping dogs lie", perhaps. same situation, but with a girl who had an experience in her past who tells her fiancee. the way the movie goes is certainly not the only possible outcome, but .. it is more likely than not, i think.

short answer here (if you don't want to try to find the movie) is that it doesn't end well for either her or the fiancee. i definitely understand feeling like you should keep any secrets, but as edog said .. with no plans to have sex with animals again, it is no longer relevant.

LoveWolvesInTheWild 1 point on 2016-05-15 03:49:36

I am going to watch this video. Sort of in the same situation myself. I feel like the outcome won't go the way I think it would with an accepting and caring hug and acceptance from my partner. :( So I should realize thr facts. Now to watch this video.. Maybe with my partner?

LoveWolvesInTheWild 1 point on 2016-05-15 03:54:44

I already don't like the video's first clip. :( sighs... Not what I expected. Did she really enjoy it? Cannot seem to find an actual video or movie about what it's actually like.

LoveWolvesInTheWild 1 point on 2016-05-15 04:08:37

She keeps lying about it... And the ending I cannot find it anywhere. It's when she lies to her new partner about having an abortion. I wish there were more "real stories about people who actually came out" and if this is the only kind of thing that has been made covering the sad topic about it, I think I should make a video of it. Just small animations on it, like how school of life makes their stuff so open and understanding about issues. I'm hoping to make things like that too.

LoveWolvesInTheWild 1 point on 2016-05-15 04:40:57

I guess I am being too harsh about it. :( It might not help with me, but it will help with others. I'm a bit hypocritical. Sorry about my bashing on the movie. I didn't give it fair chance I guess. Now that I rethink about it, others will do better watching this.