So about a year ago next month is when I brought my Shepherd puppy home. He's the first dog I've had on my own and why I chose a shepherd as my first dog I have no idea. He's amazing though, smart, funny, reliable and loyal. Everything I could ever ask for in a dog, but I still don't feel anything romantic for him. I know this can take time, and I am prepared to spend that time (I spend lke 70% of my day with this dog). But I'm worried that he's not "the one" for me. He Doesn't have the personality type I prefer (though I work with it), a little aloof, overall difficult for me to connect with. I've had an issue connecting with him from day one and I'm just worried that it's never going to be more than friends with him. I just don't feel the same way towards him as I do towards another dog I know..
I've had such bad luck with dogs. Every single dog I've fallen for I can't be with. I tears at me knowing my soulmate is right down the street but there's nothing I can do about it.
I feel a little hopeless lately. Not to say I am giving up on my boy, but I just don't feel happy. I have my dream dog, but something is still missing. It's frustrating.
Maybe the "can´t have" issue is a part of the attraction...you know, the grass is always greener on the other side. Well, I have no easy solution for this, but I´m glad you´re not gonna dump your animal just because it won´t work out as you expected...at least, I hope so. I recently bought 3 mares and a big farm; basically it could turn out for me the same way as for you: having 3 ladies , but not establishing an intimate connection beyond friendship. Even if all three turn out to "just friends", I won´t sell them. I´d rather go looking for another one that is what I´m searching for: a reliable and gentle partner to fill the gap my mare opened up with her death. I´d advise you to give it some more time. Do not get impatient, be open for forming a bond, even if it isn´t what you were looking for in the first place. Adaptability is one key virtue of any zoo.
It's not to much that the "grass is greener" or anything, the dogs I have fallen for I've gotten to know pretty well. I have a specific personality type I prefer and the dog I have no just isn't that type. He's very loyal though and I really appreciate him. I'm okay if we're just friends, just hope that someday I find my soulmate
Aye. I know that feeling. Except my soulmate is some 2000 miles from me :P I think this is something a lot of zoos have to go through.
The best advice I can give is to give it some time. All animals (i.e. not just humans) are subject to change and sometimes these changes can be drastic. I grew up in the countryside and worked as a farm hand in my teens. I witnessed many animals, some strays, some victims of neglect and abuse, display extreme behavioral problems towards humans only to grow up to be some of the most affectionate and loving pets in existence. Your pup is still young, and sheppies especially have a reputation to be somewhat neurotic dogs. Give it time.
Eh, we all have our obstacles. It is indeed something a lot of zoos have to go through.
Some are more surmountable than others. My soulmate is well... dead. Kinda takes the cake unfortunately.
I don't want to belittle your experiences. I know losing a loved one is one of the worst feelings there is and I can only imagine what it's like to lose a mate. But there is a kind of closure in death. One can make peace with having lost someone forever, as there is nothing else to be done. But there is no closure in being separated from one you love by life's circumstances.
I could go back there. I could steal her. I could spend the rest of her life with her. Even if by doing so I'd break several laws, abuse the trust of people and possibly ruin my life, I always could do it.
I didn't mean to belittle your experience either, if that's what it felt like. It's just suckage all around, I suppose. I merely meant there isn't much I can do to change my circumstance on that token.
If you feel the same as I do about having already met your soul mate I can definitely say that the 'grass is always greener' argument is complete BS. I cant describe the feeling of staring into the eyes of my soulmate. I've met loads of dogs before and since then but I've never felt what I felt staring into the eyes of that one dog... christ, thinking back to that moment makes my heart flutter.
I'm sorry you feel like it's not working out between you and him but I would try and give it a bit more time. I'm pretty sure 2 is the accepted age where dogs fully mature into their personality so hopefully he grows into his personality a bit more as he grows up.
If it really doesnt work out I dont see a problem in carefully re-homing dog with someone else for everyones happiness. It will make you happier, the new owner happier, and the dog happier being with someone whose personality is a better fit.
Just because a dog doesn't fit you romantically means you can re-home the dog?? I don't really agree with that; if someone makes a commitment to give an animal a home, they should stick with that commitment that they made to the animal. It's not fair to them just to rehome them because there's no romantic attraction from the person's end.
I absolutely think that if a relationship isn't working out its best to part ways for the happiness of everyone involved. I don't understand why you think it's best to keep you and dog miserable being in the company of each other when dog could be with someone who is truly happy with them, and you would be happier without dog. Dogs can read us like a book, they can pick up that we're not completely happy and they will realise that they are the cause.
Right, if there is only no romantic attraction then it gets a bit more difficult. Obviously I'm going to be speaking hypothetically but if I had a dog that didn't want intimacy I would be very disappointed and faced with a tough choice to make in regards to whether I should keep dog or not. Again, I would consider rehoming a dog for not wanting intimacy, but I would take into account the rest of the relationship of course. Obviously that gets more difficult as they might be the best dog ever apart from the sex part. It would depend a lot on my situation at the time. Theres too many factors that would come into play for me to say one way or another really.
Lets not forget how being a zoo means you do actually want to have sex with animals. Sex is good for your mind body and soul and, for me anyway, it's just as important as the companionship that comes from cohabiting with a doggy.
Thats just my views at the moment, they might change completely when I'm actually faced with that scenario. I can only hope I never am.
Yeah, of course as a zoo I desire a sexual relationship with him. But in no way, shape or form is that a reason to rehome an animal. I honestly have little respect for people who are willing to get rid of a dog based solely on the fact that they won't put out. I know for a fact if I were to rehome my dog tomorrow he'd be so confused and stressed without me. He didn't do anything wrong, but because he won't insert his dick in me I'm getting rid of him. How cruel and unfair is that? Makes me feel ill to think about the look on his face as I walk away.... I have a hard enough time just going to town without him.
I guess I can see your point. It's just not a point I agree with but to each their own.
like I said, if you and dog get along great apart from the sex part then it makes it a much more difficult decision to make. Thankfully in this case you like dog without the sex part, thats great, good for you.
and please, I wouldn't get rid of a dog solely because they didnt put out, but it would be a pretty big mark against dog when it came to me weighing up the entire relationship dynamic. Unfortunately you cant talk about your decision with your mate, you just have to go off the whole feel of the relationship. Hopefully zoos should be pretty bloody good at this seeing as we cant discuss details of the relationship with our mates.
I'd never rehome him, simple as that. He's been there for me when I've needed a friend and I love and appreciate him for that. Even if he isn't "the one" , I still feel deeply for him. I'm happy with him, and he seems content with me. :)
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Nice /r/cringeanarchy, pick the least cringeworthy thread on /r/zoophilia to pick on...
I suppose they could pick others if you like.
If that's an attempt at intimidation, it fell flat. I might note it's threats and behaviors like that that get subreddits banned. One of the reasons we remain is we don't partake in that level of behavior.
We (well, at least I) are willing to engage anyone in educated debate. Just be prepared to bring it at an educated level.
Intimidation? Jesus Christ.
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One thing I'll never understand is why people who don't like zoophilia go looking to voice their distaste. I dislike many things but never feel the need to tell someone how disgusting they are. Hmm...
Maybe it's because dogs aren't attracted to humans, much less neckbeard degenerate faggots that want to rape them.
So, may you are inlove with another dog and that is stopping you from falling in love with your own dog? if so... I don't think there is a cure for that... and I may have the same problems you, I'm still waiting to fall I love with my new bitch, I still miss my previous dog who I dearly loved. :/ I think the love I still feel for him stops me from really loving her in the same way? Or I wonder if love works different on different dogs? Love sucks, why it is so hard to understand love....
I am currently watching a husky whom I am developing feelings for. Since I got this dog, I've felt lighter and happier. I just know that as soon as he leaves in a few months I'll be back in the same slump with my GSD as I was before. I do love my shepherd, but not in the same way I feel for the husky. It's confusing, and I like to have them both around as provide things for me in the relationship. Love is complicated, and animal love seems even more so. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your previous dog :( I really wish you luck with your new girl.