What is it like to meet another zoo. (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2016-06-06 00:59:46 by Edog91
The only group of people I have an interest in meeting are other zoos but as I know its a risk to try and meet others also adding in the complications of working and doing things so I don't try. I just want to know what its like.
That depends on which zoo you meet! In my experience, when meeting other zoos, we generally just hang out and maybe do something fun and talk about stuff. Sometimes animals, but not usually.
It turns out many zoos aren't significantly different than the rest of the population. Not enough so that 'meeting a zoo' is worth distinguishing from 'meeting a person', at least.
I mean it's just like meeting anyone els.
Well, meeting another one of your kind in real life can be a very valuable experience. I´ll never forget the days I visited my online chat friend in Vienna. I had to travel by train and sat 13 hours to visit him and his mare. It is a very liberating experience to be able to talk openly about everything, you now. It also is quite an experience when you see that he was honest with you and not some roleplaying phantasizer, when you stand 1 meter away from the mare he sent you pictures of and it´s actually his mare, not some bullshit picture done when fencehopping. The moment you realize that there ARE others like you out there and they´re very real truly is priceless... But it is important to share at least the most common morals with the one you´re meeting up with: my friend from vienna visited me shortly after he met with a bunch of other zoos from scandinavia. I remember how shocked he was when this clique turned out to be something completely different from what these people claimed to be and to belive in online. He ran into a bunch of scandinavian fencehoppers, with cows as their main target. He was "invited" to join them, even went with them for a while until they reached their target area. Since he was an equine exclusive, he absolutely had no interest in sleeping with a cow. When the others dispersed to get their rocks off, he just stood there, in the dark asking himself why he is even here, with them...the next morning , he took the very first train back home. When he visited me a few days later, I could sense how much impact this trip to scandinavia had on him. When your "100% true zoo, bona fide" chat partners all of a sudden turn out to be a bunch of fencehopping fucktards, you´ll definitely have something to think about.A lot.Not necessarily nice thoughts.
Meeting up with other zoos in real life can go wrong on so many levels , so you better think about meeting someone in real life twice. But finding out that there are others out there, real people, not onscreen nicknames,can be a big relief. Being able to talk about your experiences as a zoophile freely and without shame is also very nice and soothing, it feels so "normal" all of a sudden.A very uplifting feeling.
Everyone has to decide whether he/she takes the risk and arranges a meet in real life. Meeting others can turn out to be very inspiring, making you feel more comfortable with what you are. But it easily can turn out to be very annoying and embarrassing when you meet up with the wrong "zoos" as well.
I know a few zoos near me. I can't really meet them though, because:
a.) My parents are severely antizoo, and I don't drive
b.) I suffer from a zoos worst nightmare, agoraphobia. (Oh yay, I know. Thanks prescription meds!)
So no comment.
My worst nightmare would be being deathly allergic to the animals I love
I may as well be. I can't care for them. Hell, I barely even SEE them.
But yeah, I get what you're saying. Always could be worse.
I happen to be allergic to animal hair... Dammit Allergies!
Your parents know? How did they find out?
Many years ago, when I was young and foolish, I told them.
In my opinion, it is a bit more than just meeting another person. I see it as meeting a friend who you can really connect with on a philosophical level. My roommate is zoo and the first meetup was intimidating, knowing that this person I'd never seen before in person knew my deepest secret. We quickly moved on from that and became great friends. Being openly zoo to each other is only a small part of that now. It is nice to have people around with which you don't need to risk hiding your feelings around.
I haven't meet other zoos in person.
I'd think zoos are like people in general. Granted, you have something in common. Zoophiles like animals.
But otherwise, we are of different ages, genders, nationalities, personalities... It can be nice to meet someone you know won't judge you based on zoophilia, but otherwise, it's not that big of a deal. I once met a man who was a zoophile, he was over 10 years older than me and straiht, and while we had a polite and pleasant talk, that was it. Nothing life-changing.
My boyfriend is attracted to large felines, so while he will never act on it, it's nice to have a partner who understands. But a person can be accepting without being a zophile themself, too.
Depends on the person I guess. I've ever only met one other zoo in person and he is a wonderful friend, but I've heard horror stories from friends about some of their experiences. I personally enjoy knowing one other zoo in person. It's nice to be around someone of similar mind and have the freedom to be who you are.
I've met several others, most have been really terrible experiences for me. But then again, most zoos tend to be cis-male and heavily entrenched in sexist as well as other oppressive ideas. And I'm about as liberal/feminist/anti-oppressive as one can get without being part of some extremist lefty organization/idealism.
On the other hand, the people who aren't cis-males have all been super wonderful to me so far and are lovely people who are roughly as hell bent against violence as I am.
Did they treat you bad or was it a conflict of ideas? This is my personal opinion. Cis, Bi, Gay,straight as of now we are all the zoo orientation why great divides based on preference?
They treated me horribly. Where do I even begin? The first one expected sex from me and would pressure me into it. He would also degrade women constantly.
The 2nd one, we were only online friends, but he did get an interview for being a zoo and I don't think he should be representing this community because he is a pedophile and told me his plans to rape his 6yo. neice. If the public ever caught whiff that this seemingly innocent zoophile is a pedophile who had plans to rape his niece, how do you think that would reflect on the rest of the community?, a community that is already under fire for supposedly producing some of the worst child rapists and murderers in the world?
The 3rd one wanted me to be the perfect housewife and do all the chores and whatever else bidding he wanted me to do and still had the nerve to call me lazy after doing whatever he wanted, not to mentioned he would derive great pleasure from making his GSD chase me down and bite me. He also raped his dog (forcibly had sex with her and hurt her because she was too small for sex). Apparently according to a diary in the back of his car from an ex of his who is also zoo, I'm not his first victim he's done such things to and every time I brought these things up and told him how much he was hurting me, he would laugh about it.
The last one was one of the biggest hypocrites I've ever met, and broke my heart because I believed all of his lies and he manipulated me into having sex with him when I didn't want to. He also cheated on me with another human.
As for the 2nd part, you'd have to read quite a bit of queer/PoC/disabled/feminist/classist history before you would understand anything I had to say on that subject. It's not just zoos who do things that hurt other people, as well as myself. It's most people who take part in it, so I'm not making a point about sex, race, etc. specifically about the zoo community, it's a statement that encompassas everyone. Cis-men have always treated me and every AFAB I see them with like crap - especially if they are heterosexual, I haven't met a single one yet who didn't after getting to know them and I'm not about to hold anyone's hand and sing kumbaya with them if they can't treat me with kindness and dignity, not even in this community or any other political/social community I belong to.
Wow that's surprising to read' those people are scumbags for the way they treated you, and there animals. But don't give up on the rest of us, I would not treat you in such a way and I am sure I am not the only one.