Fantasy better than reality? (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2016-06-28 21:11:17 by subbitchthrowaway
Hi everybody. I've had persistent thoughts and fantasies about this (and about a million other things) for a long time, but the one experience I had (with a dog) was not what I'd hoped it would be. It was actually very awkward and kind of disgusting. I still have all the same fantasies and check out animals but I wonder if anyone else has the feeling that keeping it to a fantasy might be for the best? Thanks.
I have a few question OP and I don't mean this as an insult.
A: Is this your first sexual experience?
B: Are you a furry?
C: What is the appeal of animals too you both sexual and non-sexual?
Thanks for responding.
A: No, not at all. I'm very experienced with people. The thing with the dog happened a few years ago but I haven't repeated it since.
B: No, I'm not. I like some furry art but I don't identify as one myself.
C: That's hard to describe. Maybe it's only the taboo aspect of it and I don't really belong here but the thoughts are persistent.
Did the knot hurt?
We didn't really get that far, it kept slipping out.
How did it not live up to your fantasy and was it more disgusting than having sex with humans? If so, in what way was it more disgusting?
Hi. I'm not sure, really...it just felt awkward and kind of bad. It's hars to describe. Maybe I just wasn't in the right mindset for it at the time, but I still continue to fantasize about animals, check them out on the street, etc. I don't feel bad about myself for having done it but I did while it was happening. There wasn't a lot of pleasure.
The only thing I can think for why it would feel bad is because you feel it is bad to be sexual towards "such a sweet, innocent being as a nonhuman animal." Do you think that is where your sense of shame comes from?
Could it have been the actual dog was not your type?
My first (and only) experience with a dog was... okay. If I didn't have to worry about legality and safety, I would do it again. But it wasn't perfect, since while the dog was cute, he wasn't really my type appearance-wise. Also, his owner stayed and watched, and I found that distracting.
I would also compare to my first and only experience with foursomes. I didn't know the people involved very well, so it was awkward and I left quickly afterwards and didn't want to repeat the event with those people. But I know that it wasn't the number itself that was wrong, I could imagine doing something like that with people I knew better and am more attracted to. The problem was the individuals, strangers who weren't that attractive, to be honest.
So, you have to think about it: could the problem have been this individual dog? After all, dogs are individuals just like humans are.
what was different in your fantasy compared to what you got irl? did you have a good relation with the dog, or did someone guide him on you / you didn't know him that well?
I can't get on with anything really, tho, with my last dog it went all so natural. Which got me surprised to be fair (and was the best interaction sexually wise for me) Maybe that might be a difference
He was a stranger, and it happened kind of on the spur of the moment. It actually never occurred to me that it might be different if I had more of a relationship with him (that isn't my experience with humans), but you make a good point. Thanks.
Maybe in the future, you can find a better partner to have a better experience with. :) But if it's not to be, than fantasizing is the way to go. I feel like Im in the same shoes with how you are with animals. I can't say I am Zoo, but I am very attracted to them. I haven't had a good experience since my first time. So for now I fantasize about it. And it feels so much better to fantasize a great experience than try to make it happen by forcing it upon them. Imagination is great for that. So I think its perfectly healthy. Still though, if you have a good opportunity with another dog partner, I'm sure it would go better. ^_^