Hi everyone, please don't mind the throwaway. I'm not quite ready to go posting on my main.
For anyone out there attracted to animals exclusively, have you ever thought about cohabitating with another person?
For some background, I'm a zoo-exclusive female in my late 20s. I've never dated men, and I have no desire to date men. But I'm starting to get to the age where people around me are settling down, and I'm looking to my future. When I was a young zoo, I'd just intended on living a solitary life on my farm with my mate and other animals. I've always gotten along better with animals than people. But I wonder if it would be smarter logistically to live with another zoo?
Although I'd love my animal companions... more than anything.. they could not call 911 if there were a break in. I couldn't ask them to pick up something from the grocers, or talk to them about the latest book I've read. And sometimes I get to thinking it would be best to find a zoo who feels like I do, someone who'd become a good friend, and keep each other company while we share the cost of farm life and raising our animals.
Is anyone in this sort of situation, or thought about it? I'd love to hear what you think
- hopelesszoo
Not zoo exclusive but at about the same point in my life as well. You could always just look for a roommate / boarders to lessen the cost of a farm. But then of course you would have to be more discrete. Edit: you can always try, but I guess I was getting at it's hard to find someone local and be open about it
Boarders had actually been my first thought. I already own the land, so the costs aren't terribly high. It just is a lot of work to maintain alone. But like you said, the discretion problem would be there and that's big for me. I had to hide who I was all through my teens and I don't really want to go back.
Ultimately, I won't find anyone local, I know. I live in as zoo-friendly a state as there are, but we're so spread out. My plan so far is just to keep active on BF and see if I might find someone in time.
Im open/nonjudgemental to zoos, and like you have very lil desire to be with anyone for my own reasons. Also a gamer too. And may be looking for a room mate in one of 2 areas. 30/m. What area you live in?
Hi, thank you but I'm not actually looking for anyone yet. I was thinking for when I'm in my 30s sometime. Just wanted to see if this was something other zoos had done
I don't like living around other people. Right now I've got an apartment to myself, which I appreciate. However... If I was going to live with someone else, I'd want it to be another exclusive zoo.
However I'd also have trouble finding anyone I trust enough for that. And also someone I'd generally get along with well enough.
I prefer just me and my dog. Sure I miss out on the benefits of living with someone but I don't think I could feel the same freedom if I were living with others.
absolutely. when i moved out on my own, it was nice, but when i got a zoo roommate a year ago it made me realize how lonely i was before that happened. it's not easy to find, but we're both zoo exclusive and it works quite well for us. it was about a year of chatting before we met IRL for the first time, and another year after that before we talked about moving in together, so it wouldn't hurt to talk to some people now and take it VERY slow. find out if your personalities jive, your interests, goals, etc.
Lived with various other zoos for the last 5+ years. If you can find others you trust and can get along with, it's great.
I'm quite the misanthrope so no thanks.
But then again, doggies are the perfect ''people'' to live with.
Having a zoo roommate can be nice. They just gotta click with your ideology. I was living with a zoo roommate in the past and despite some issues between us in the end, what we had was still great when we had it.
Im not zoo exclusive but that kind of set up is exactly what im hoping to have some day. I would like to live with another human/humans but hate the thought of being constantly paranoid about housemates "catching on". It would also be nice to be able to help eachother with animal care on occasion. At the same time I know it will be very difficult to find another zoo who is looking for this, as its hard to make local connections. who knows though im hopefull, and it will be a few years down the road for me anyway. Good luck finding some cool people, sounds like a good idea to me!
There are some sacrifices with being a zoo exclusive.
I am an inclusive zoophile myself, but it is very unlikely that I will find that 'special woman' worth sharing my life with, at least in the near future.
Many feel pressed because they have not found a human partner when they are supposed to. Much of it comes from peer pressure, and most of the rest comes because people thinks that they will be happy when they find one. I call both reasons bullshit.
Having dependable human social relations is important for other reasons, but I don't think cohabiting is a requirement. At the very least you need some friends in town you can trust to take care of your animals if you break your legs and end up in hospital. In rural areas, it is not uncommon to find old folks that have absolutely nothing else to do than playing cards and board games who won't mind helping out.
If you feel you are lacking human interaction, find some hobby that is organized in clubs or federations and try to make friends there. Martial arts gyms and precision shooting clubs work well for making friends no matter how socially awkward you are. Same with roleplaying games or wargamming clubs.
PS: I consider the break in problem solved here. The sheer number of big dogs, guns, and my bad reputation seem to be convincing every thief in the area to steal in the other houses in town.
I've been thinking of living on my own, never worked out with people. i recognize what you talk of, I've been wondering the same.
Preferably I'd build my own house somewhere remote, but it has its drawbacks. At times I'd wish to talk, and yes, it would be nice, but I'm very afraid of going out or meet any people related to this.
I know 2 zoo's irl, and a number that "dont mind it" but I dont ever feel like sharing or telling anyone who knows me. It frustrates, not being able to talk about it, or people understanding my feels
I've been thinking about my future recently and its been a little...challenging. I'd love to have kids one day but the chance of being able to get a GF who is ok with me not having sex with her yet still willing to be my partner in life is slim to non. Also as a zoosclusive I dont date so the chance of even finding her is basically none.
cohabiting with someone would be the perfect thing to do but that brings about its own challenges. The world just isn't geared for single folk (or those with an animal g/bf) unfortunately.
I've had many housemates over the years; a few who didn't know and never figured it out, a few who figured it out, and a few who knew beforehand. Currently I'm living with another zoo.
One of the nicest advantages of living with an animal lover, be they zoo or just good with non-humans, is having someone to rely on when life intrudes. Eventually there will come a day when you have to work late, have an accident, or some other such unplanned event and having another person who you can rely on to take care of your dependent(s) in a proper manner is an enormous asset. At the times I've not had someone living with me, this was typically one of my biggest concerns.
I would not mind cohabitation with another zoo. Specially if they also bring their own dog and I get some play time from him/her. ;)
Of course, as long as the other zoo is Ok with it.
I don't actually need human contact, so, that or monetary support would be the only reason I would actually consider living with some one else.
But yes, that makes sense, to have some one there. What if you fain or die or break your legs, your animals may spend weeks before anyone find you are dead and they may suffer (or be forced to eat you) So, being a total lone wolf may not be the best for the animals in some cases.
I guess a close friend could also play a similar role. For everything else, you have forums where you can talk with humans about the last book you read or what ever.
PS: You and actuallynotazoophile may be a match, if you are up to having a kid for him ;)
I think it will be helpful to break your question down into two areas. Sure there is the orientation-specific part, which is great to ask here. The part regarding "I'm currently living alone, and this has ramifications"? This will resonate with people of all ages and all orientations, and I'd encourage asking around in many places, especially some less biased by misanthropy.
All I can say is that ANYONE you open your life to may become a "future ex" so there are risks no matter what. Part of the "fun" of growing up (whether you're 13, 23, or 33) is realizing life will almost never be perfect. It's just finding out what you can do with the hand you're dealt... and people with different sexual orientations are often dealt some challenging hands.