30 (F) I was almost caught in the act today. (self.zoophilia)
submitted 2015-10-16 01:48:07 by [deleted]
I was almost caught by my best friend today and I am considering telling her, so I don't need to hide it from her any longer. I have recently done an AMA https://redd.it/3nnjir[1][1] which helped me open up about it but I just don't know what I should do.
Not to pry for titillation, but we need more detail to assess the situation. I don't know what happened, or who your best friend is, or anything that might tell me to advise in any other way than to be careful about that.
Not a problem, my very best friend since grade school the kind of girl friend that you have no secrets from. Were supposed to go out an have dinner tonight, but she decided she wanted to hang out first and showed up at my place 45 min before I was expecting her to, I was right in the middle of everything with my dog when I hear her open the back door to my place that's when my heart dropped, she didn't see anything because I had my door to my room shut but she knew I was doing something.
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I know she has seen a video or to for sure so I don't think she would freak out, what I am worried about is it changing are relationship.
Unless she brings up the topic, I wouldnt tell her.
And even then. It's tricky. You'd have to be careful how you answer. Perhaps with a "what did you think you saw exactly?" And maybe a "what's your opinion on that?" So as to judge if shes violently against it, then you can make up excuses that she didn't see what she thought she saw, as you'd NEVER etc. But if she seemed openminded on the subject, then maybe the topic could be open for further discussion.
I wouldn't.
But then again, I had a horrible experience. I would be absolutely sure though of her reaction, or not tell at all.
I won't ask about your experience publicly but I would like to hear about it.
See this:
https://www.reddit.com/r/zoophilia/comments/3533e6/coming_out/
Mine was, a new GF told me she once put peanut butter on her vulva and tried to get her male dog to lick it off. Which he did but she had to keep putting PB on over and over and it was a lot of trouble. Then she asked me if I'd ever done anything with my mares. I told her I gave them oral sometimes. She totally freaked. IT was all a trick to see if I was a perv. She dumped me like a hot potato. But has never told anyone, because I sort of have something on her that would greatly embarrass her if I retaliated.
Why did she ask in the first place like did she find something and was trying to set you up?
Honestly I don't know why she asked in the first place. And there's a possibility she did not intend to test me in that way. But simply related a sexual experment she'd had with me, not expecting I had done something similar. I've encountered people who, think it's ok for THEM to have tried something strange, but if anyone else has tried it, THOSE people are fucking weirdo's. It's the "do as I say, not as I do" people. It's the people who say, smoked weed when they were teens, but don't want their kids to find out because "they won't be as responsible as I was". It's the people who in their minds, have a reason for doing what they did, but who cannot relate to the reality that someone who has done something similar might have had good reason also. IE they have trouble relating to other peoples feelings.
My rule of thumb with real-life friends is: If you're planning on being in a long term relationship with someone, it's best to find a way to tell them... if not, it's best to avoid the subject.
Regardless, it's unfortunate that we live in a culture where such a choice needs to be made.
Not if you want to keep that relationship. As you say, AVOID the subject.
i normally dont give out advice like this, but not telling her would be your best option. no matter how good of a friend you think they are, you never know how they might react or how well theyll keep your secret. and it can get you in some pretty big trouble if other people find out
My gut instinct is not to tell her.
I wouldn't do it it's quite dangers, Losing a friend or being shunned its whatever, but if she really doesn't take it well you can lose your partner and that wouldn't be worth it.
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never sure what advice to give in this situation, but "don't tell her" is definitely safer, though difficult.
DON'T. Do NOT tell her or ANYONE. Avoid the subject like the plague. At least be VERY careful. The average person will freak out. The only people I've told IRL were those that I had something on.
Well I do have a lot on her so I know she would never say anything.